I know exactly what you’re feeling. I’ve been in that place where you’re trying everything—texting first, dropping hints, even lowering your standards—just to get the attention of that one specific person. I get it. I’ve done it. I’ve risked my self-respect, convinced myself he was the one, and believed he was just “not the type of guy who chases.” But let me tell you something that changed everything for me: even the most stubborn, emotionally unavailable man can become obsessed—if you shift your energy right.
This isn’t just fluff. I’ve personally used these exact techniques to turn the tables—to stop chasing and instead, become the woman he couldn’t stop thinking about. And I’m not talking about temporary interest. I’m talking about genuine obsession and long-term commitment.
If you’ve been Googling “how to manifest a specific person” or “how to attract love using the Law of Attraction,” but you keep hitting a wall, this blog is your breakthrough. I’m going to show you exactly how to stop chasing your SP (specific person) and use powerful feminine energy, mindset shifts, and Law of Attraction principles to make him chase you.
If you can commit to following these steps with even half the energy you’ve spent chasing him… I promise, he’ll not only chase you—but he’ll want to claim you forever.
Part 1: Stop Chasing (aka Detachment)
If you want to manifest your specific person (SP), the first and most powerful step is to stop chasing. I know that sounds counterintuitive when all you want is for them to choose you. But here’s the truth: your energy is your power. And when you’re constantly focused on them, begging the universe, or obsessing over signs—they can feel that clingy energy. And it repels love instead of attracting it.
1. Get a Plan B
I know this sounds like betrayal. Like you’re giving up on your manifestation. Learn How To *easily* Release Fear When Manifesting? But hear me out: having a Plan B is your golden ticket to detachment. You don’t have to abandon your desire—but create a safety net for your heart. Tell yourself:
“If I don’t get him, I’ll get something better. Either way, I win.”
This mindset takes you out of desperation mode and shifts you into abundance. It lets your SP go energetically—and that’s when they start to feel your absence. You’re no longer waiting for crumbs. You’re moving like a woman who knows her worth and believes love will come from the highest possible source. Learn How I Manifested Marriage with My SP in 7-Days.
2. Remove Your Energy
Here’s the game-changer: go completely cold on an energetic level. For just three days—yes, only three—go into a blackout phase. No visualizing him, no praying for him, no scripting, no talking to friends about him, no overthinking. Nothing.
When thoughts of him come up, don’t fight them—just gently say:
“I’ll think about this after 3 days.”
This isn’t about giving up on your manifestation. It’s about reclaiming your energy and proving to the universe (and yourself) that he does not control your emotional state. By the time those 3 days are over, you’ll already feel more powerful, grounded, and magnetic. And don’t be surprised if you suddenly hear from him during this phase—because detachment creates space for attraction.
Part 2: Make Him Chase (aka Attraction)
Now that you’ve stopped chasing and reclaimed your power, it’s time to make him chase you. This is where real attraction begins—not the kind where you manipulate or try hard—but the magnetic kind, where he’s drawn to you like a moth to a flame. The truth is, once you shift your inner world, your outer world has to follow. Here’s how to use energy, mindset, and the Law of Attraction to manifest your SP chasing you.
1. Subliminal Shifts
Subliminals are powerful because they bypass your conscious resistance and go straight to your subconscious—where your beliefs live. If deep down you believe things like “He’s out of my league” or “I’m not good enough for him,” you’ll keep manifesting rejection. But once you start feeding your mind with new truths like:
“I am irresistible.”
“He can’t stop thinking about me.”
“I’m the one he chooses every time.”
…your outer reality will begin to reflect that. Listen to subliminals daily—preferably at night—and watch how your confidence starts glowing and how he starts showing up. Learn This Is How You PROPERLY Listen To Subliminals.
2. Shift Your Belief System
Take a notebook and get brutally honest. What are the limiting beliefs you’re carrying around love and relationships? Maybe you think you’re “too much,” or that love always ends in heartbreak. Write them all down. Then one by one, flip the script. Replace “I’m always left behind” with “I’m always chosen first.” learn How I Overcame My Limiting Beliefs In One Day.
This is how you become a vibrational match to the version of reality where he’s the one chasing you. Because if you still believe love has to be hard or you have to earn it—your energy will repel exactly what you want. But once your belief system says “of course he chases me,” guess what? He will.
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3. Live in the End
This is the missing piece for most women trying to manifest a specific person. Ask yourself:
“If he were already obsessed with me… if he had already committed to me… how would I be reading this blog right now?”
Would you be anxious and doubting? Or would you be smiling, sipping your coffee, feeling like the queen of his heart? That’s the energy you need to embody right now. Start making decisions from the version of you who’s already got him. What would she be planning? What would she be focusing on?
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Key Takeaways:
- Stop chasing your specific person if you want to manifest them. Chasing pushes them away and makes you look needy.
- Detachment is the first step. You have to let go of the outcome and trust that what you want is already on its way.
- Make a Plan B. This helps you feel safe even if your SP doesn’t come. When you feel secure, you stop needing them—and that’s powerful.
- Take your energy back. Don’t think, talk, or daydream about them for 3 days. This pause makes you magnetic again.
- Say to yourself, “I’ll think about this later.” This rewires your brain to stop obsessing and stay in control of your emotions.
- Subliminals are your secret weapon. They reprogram your subconscious mind with new beliefs that attract love.
- Find and replace old limiting beliefs like “He’s out of my league” or “I always get left.” New beliefs create a new reality.
- Act like it’s already done. If he were already chasing you, how would you feel? Be that version of yourself today.
- Manifestation works when you believe it’s already yours. Confidence is the real magic—not begging or pleading.
- When you stop chasing and start aligning, the person you want will feel the shift and be drawn back to you.
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