anxious avoidant dance - Hafsa Kishwar

10 *must-know* Things while Dating an Avoidant Attachment Style

What is an avoidant man? How do you deal with an avoidant partner? If you’re dating an avoidant attachment style who keeps their emotions locked away, you already know how confusing it can feel. As someone with an anxious attachment style, I used to think avoidant partners were impossible to love. Yet, here I am, three years into a relationship with an avoidant man—someone I’ve broken up with multiple times but am now marrying.

Some might call me crazy, but I call it commitment. Relationships take effort, and I’ve learned to invest mine in someone who’s also willing to grow. My partner isn’t perfect, and neither am I. This blog isn’t about excusing toxic behaviors like verbal or physical abuse (that’s not avoidant; that’s dangerous). Instead, it’s about understanding the avoidant attachment style—those who keep their emotions at arm’s length but aren’t out to hurt you intentionally.

If you’re curious about how to love an avoidant partner or dating an avoidant attachment style without losing yourself, keep reading. Here are 10 lessons I’ve learned while loving someone with an avoidant personality. Let’s dive in!

How To ACTUALLY Fix Anxious Attachment Style

I know it sucks. Believe me, I really know how it feels to be dependent on your partner’s mood. Always trying to get closer, just to be pushed away. It hurts when it feels like your partner doesn’t give a f*ck about you while you’re crying your eyes out. Why is it so painful to be this sensitive? Is it all my fault? Or is my partner just a piece of shit?

Well, let me tell you, it’s not your fault. You don’t have to change who you are or break up with your partner. All you need is a little understanding and growth. Learning how to fix anxious attachment style can make a huge difference in your life and relationships. By putting yourself first, giving your partner space, and expressing your emotions without blame, you can build a healthier and happier relationship. Let’s dive into some practical steps that can help you overcome anxious attachment and create a more secure bond with your partner.