avoidant and anxious relationship

10 *must-know* Things while Dating an Avoidant Attachment Style

What is an avoidant man? How do you deal with an avoidant partner? If you’re dating an avoidant attachment style who keeps their emotions locked away, you already know how confusing it can feel. As someone with an anxious attachment style, I used to think avoidant partners were impossible to love. Yet, here I am, three years into a relationship with an avoidant man—someone I’ve broken up with multiple times but am now marrying.

Some might call me crazy, but I call it commitment. Relationships take effort, and I’ve learned to invest mine in someone who’s also willing to grow. My partner isn’t perfect, and neither am I. This blog isn’t about excusing toxic behaviors like verbal or physical abuse (that’s not avoidant; that’s dangerous). Instead, it’s about understanding the avoidant attachment style—those who keep their emotions at arm’s length but aren’t out to hurt you intentionally.

If you’re curious about how to love an avoidant partner or dating an avoidant attachment style without losing yourself, keep reading. Here are 10 lessons I’ve learned while loving someone with an avoidant personality. Let’s dive in!

10 FAIL-PROOF Tips How I Healed My Anxious Attachment

I used to be the extreme of anxious attachment, caught in the tangled web of an anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic. At first, it seemed like a fairy tale, with sparks flying and promises of forever. But as time unveiled our true attachment styles, cracks began to form. He withdrew, and I clung tighter, desperate to bridge the growing chasm between us. Yet, every attempt to pull him closer only pushed him farther away until one day, he vanished without a trace, leaving me drowning in a sea of uncertainty and insecurity.

For six agonizing months, I waited, clinging to the hope that he would return. Little did I know, his avoidance was a testament to his own attachment, mirroring my anxious tendencies. It was a harsh lesson, but it taught me that if I truly wanted him, I needed to heal my own attachment wounds first.

Through grit and determination, I embarked on a journey to transform my anxiously attached self into someone more secure in life and love. Now, he’s the one reaching out, eager to share his world with me. And the most beautiful part? I no longer seek validation or reassurance because I’ve cultivated a sense of calm and self-assurance within myself.

In this guide, I’ll share ten fail-proof tips inspired by attachment theory to help you navigate the complexities of anxious attachment and emerge as your partner’s number one priority. It’s time to rewrite the narrative of insecurity and embrace a future filled with love, trust, and serenity.