Hey bestie! I used to have an anxious attachment style, and when I look back, I realize that my communication mistakes didn’t just trigger my own anxiety—they also activated my partner’s avoidant attachment style. If you’re in an anxious-avoidant relationship, you probably already know how frustrating the push-and-pull dynamic can be.
Since communication is the foundation of any relationship, it’s even more important in anxious-avoidant dynamics. When someone with an anxious attachment style communicates from a place of fear, it often causes the avoidant partner to withdraw further, creating a cycle of emotional distress.
But here’s the good news: you can fix anxious attachment style behaviors and improve your relationship! By recognizing and correcting these communication mistakes, you’ll not only feel more secure but also create a healthier connection—whether you’re trying to make an anxious-avoidant relationship work or heal your attachment style for good.
Let’s dive into the 12 biggest communication mistakes people with anxious attachment make and how to fix them.